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The Line of Trust

I try to give those who enter my life a 'blanket' amount of trust. This is an 'innocent until proven guilty' offering, loosely based on the belief that there is [some] good in everyone. From this base, one can earn more ... or completely destroy what they have been given.

Trust is as difficult to explain as any human emotion. In it's essence, it is the ability to open one's self to vulnerability....with the belief that doing so will not lead to exploitation. Trust, of course, means dramatically different things to different people in different circumstances.

A lifetime of trust can be broken in a moment. Ironically, the reverse can also be true... A world of trust can be granted in an instant.

Recently someone indicated that they trust me in a way that is well beyond the scope of the friendship I thought we had. How did this happen? What did I do to earn this trust? I am not sure I want the responsibility.

It is easy blame others when they break our faith. But what if the trust was never truly earned or wanted? What if they didn't realize the extent of our trust?

At times, it is human nature to 'trust' based on our own needs rather than the needs of those we place our trust in. This can be a delicate situation. Proceed with caution.

Comments

CitizenDino said…
Get out of your head mate. Trust is something you give, not something others earn.

You control trust.
1:51 AM
Jim Carlson said…
I respectfully disagree. Trust is interactive.
10:03 PM
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